Impressions, such a strong word, just trying to look for the definition for the word is even stronger, and possibly harder, it is one of those words that is so hard to define, such as the word ‘normal.’ Well, what does the word mean to me? Impression means to me is, impact. Each person I have met, come in contact one way or another has/have left an impression on me in my life. Over the past year, I have met some interesting, fantastic people, and some not so fantastic. But still they have left an impression.
I have thought of writing this blog for a few days. What made me want to write this is someone that I know, someone that has left such a great impact on my life, someone that I feel is like a mentor, someone that I know that I can go to, and talk to, and get advice from them. She has seen my struggles, my ups and downs. I pray that I have a family like hers, and a husband that will love me dearly, such as her husband has for her. I strive for that. Many of you know how much I just want someone in my life, to love me, to listen to me, to call me on my shit, to just be there when I need them. Yet, I have to follow what my Grandpa has told me, “Alesha, in relationships Patience is a Virtue. Be Patient with the one that will come into your life.” And, he is right, in all relationships you have to be patient, does not matter what relationship, yet most of all, you have to be patient with the one you want to spend your life with. I say this, because you cannot agree on everything in a relationship, but you have to be patient with each other, and listen to each other.
So, back to what I was saying about impressions. ‘Sometimes the first impression is usually the wrong impression.’ Do I have any of you scratching your head yet, from what I just stated? Let me try to explain. First impressions could always be the last impression, but it can also be the best impression. (I wonder how many times I can say impression in this blog, such a strange, yet dignified word) I dislike the first impression, cause than I always analyze the first impression, and judge (which I despise in myself, because I have been judged too many times), what I just saw, but sometimes my first impressions, are usually wrong, yet other times they are perfectly right on. I guess it comes from observing a crowd of people, when I feel out of my element, and when I just do not really know anyone. I always wonder when I am with a group of people, of how I look, how I act. I also question myself on how people thought of me. But it brings me back to what a teacher has told me. That what I think is not always what people think of me.
To know that I have people in my life that will look out for me, and care for me, and that I have left the impression on them, that I am sweet, caring, and that those same people want the best for me, as I want for myself, makes me smile, and maybe even tear up a bit. To have someone that I barely know, tell me last night, that even barely knowing much of my life, that he thinks I am a great person, and that he knows that I will find someone with what he has with his wife. I replied, “I hope so.” His reply, “I know so.”
I always feel that first impression people see of me is my looks. Maybe it’s the way I was raised, not sure on that, or it could be on how I was treated by a few of my peers, or maybe it is also those Teen Magazines, where the girls are tiny, and they look flawless but what we do not know there is a lot of photo shopping when it comes to magazines. When we look at Magazines, my first impressions are, ‘Damn, I wish I could …’
I have just now come to realize. Impressions can suck! Impressions is almost like judging, I cannot stand being judged, and when I feel like I am judging myself, I have to stop, because it is not me. It is like me going up to a person or even walking by the person or seeing an un-named face in the crowd, and I can see by their expression, and feeling their energy, or the body posture, of someone who looks bored or is happy. They are giving off the vibe that they are Happy or Sad, and it’s the first impression I have of them. But really, whatever is behind our eyes, and into our souls that hold all the secrets that we have been given, or know of about ourselves, is not something that we as people or that person across the way will show through. Everyone has their secrets, so is this why impressions have such a bad name?
So, my question for all of you who read this, when you first met me, what was your impression? Yes, I know I am putting myself out there, and all of you are wondering why? Well, it is because not everyone such as the like of myself and you, have the same impression of the same person that we may know.
The people I know that have left an impact on my life, Thank You! I appreciate that you have given me a little bit of your life to me, even if a few of you do not realize it. I know some do, but this Blog is a Thanks to you! I love keeping the people close to me, even if we maybe more acquaintances than anything else. Some of you I do not talk to often or see often, but you are always in my thoughts.
~ Lesha
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